29 Best Sex Gifts That Are Great for Bondage—er, Bonding

In addition to chocolates and perfume, there’s a world of Advent calendars for sex toys. The more you know, eh? Behind the doors of Lovehoney’s collaboration with Womanizer are 24 days of thrills for you and your partner (vibrators, BDSM toys, massage oils, and more). It’s an excellent way to build tension and make each day of the month sexier than the last.

Shopping for a sensual anniversary or Christmas gift for your partner? Well, you can really set the mood with Dame’s massage candle that smells of rich sandalwood, fig, and white peach. It burns at a low temp, making it totally safe to drizzle some of the warm, softened oil across your partner’s body for a delicious full-body rub down.

Treat your giftee to a lingerie set that toes the line between naughty and nice. Its white lace and rosebud detailing is demure, but its cheeky cut and sheer fabric amp up the sexiness.

Play this provocative conversation game with a group or just one other—you’ll certainly learn a lot, no matter what. Rated-R questions include “Do you think I’ve ever made a sex tape?” and “What are you attracted to that you know isn’t good for you?”

The Magic Wand’s popularity has only intensified with the decades. The wand vibrator is a versatile choice—you can use it as a tool for foreplay by giving your partner or yourself a relaxing massage first. Then let it drift across erogenous zones like the nipples or clitoris for a more sensual experience.

Rouse your partner’s desire by lightly tickling their erogenous zones with the feathered end of this stylish leather BDSM toy. After building their arousal, flip the rod to convert it into a riding crop (a type of sex whip for sensation play). Its flat end can deliver quite the spanking.

Sometimes the sexiest gifts are also the most ridiculous. This wearable thong or pouch is made of colorful candies that fit snugly around the, er, goods, ready for the eating. It’s an unexpected date-night idea and would cause quite the stir at a Dirty Santa exchange or as a gag gift.

Give your partner the power (or take it for yourself) with these high-quality handcuffs. Instead of metal, they’re made of a glossy patent leather that’s softer on the skin (and looks prettier too). The cuffs are adjustable to fit different wrist sizes, and come with a strap and bar that allows over-the-door restraint play. Just be sure you’ve got your safe words in order.

If you’re trying to find a gift for men that’s on the steamy side, might we direct you toward the Lelo Hugo? The prostate massager curves inside the anus to hit the P-spot (a gland packed with nerves that can lead to powerful orgasms), and its shorter arm vibrates against the perineum. TL;DR: The anal sex toy is sure to be a more pleasurable gift than a hoodie or coffee mug—just sayin’.

A blindfold is the perfect entry point into bondage, especially one as chic as this one. It’s made of romantic red silk and embroidered with the words “Ravish me.” Talk about a straight-to-the-point present.

If you or your partner have wanted to try out some light BDSM, whip out this 10-day Advent calendar right around December 15 (or whenever, really). Each drawer contains a bondage accessory that’ll help you experiment with mixing a little pain and sensation-heightening into your play. Gifts include a whip, satin restraints, a butt plug, a bullet vibrator, a vibrating cock ring, anal beads, nipple clamps, and more.

This stone-shaped bar melts into massage oil when warmed by body heat. It’s slippery enough to be used when deeply kneading the skin and doubles as an intense moisturizer that's packed with cocoa butter. It’s also far easier to travel with than a bottle of oil or a candle. Note: This is not meant to be used as a lube with latex condoms or silicone sex toys.

Though it looks like jewelry, this sleek pendant suspended on a chain is a bullet vibrator that delivers surprisingly strong sensations wherever it’s pressed. It’s a unique sex gift, and no one would ever guess that it’s actually a vibe—which is half the fun, isn’t it?

This sweetly ruffled but totally sheer chemise leaves little to the imagination once it’s slipped on. Gift it to the person who appreciates the luxury that is new lingerie—or wear it to transform yourself into the true present.

If you’re shopping for the long-distance lover, we recommend this wearable remote-control vibrator. One arm fits inside the vagina for G-spot action while the other gives clitoral stimulation. You or your partner can control its intensity via app from anywhere in the room (or world), which can lead to all sorts of hot public play. The vibe can even buzz in sync with music.

This perfume has notes of sultry musk and spicy sandalwood—and a name that’s pretty direct in its desire: More. Sex.

Here’s a fun boyfriend gift idea. Pair this bottle of warm vanilla and caramel men’s cologne with a card that requests your giftee wear it when you’re together—and never any other time. After all, a signature scent that’s just for you both is pretty damn sexy.

Build the heat with a date-night gift set that includes desire kindlers like the aphrodisiac chocolate (in the form of a fondue kit into which you can dip fruit and feed to each other); the aforementioned kinky pick-up sticks game; and an activity journal for couples.

A male masturbator (a.k.a. a stroker) is essentially a sleeve that slips around the head of the penis and has a textured inside that gives the feeling of oral sex times 10 (sans mouth or even hand movement). This bestseller from Blowmotion warms up for extra sensation, rumbles, vibrates, and builds in strength.

The person who knows what everyone’s earth sign is will get a kick out of this gorgeous coffee-table book, which dives into the zodiac’s romantic and sensual compatibilities. It gives them a picture of how each sign likes to flirt, date, and then some—intel that they’ll definitely want.

These gummies are formulated with a blend of green tea extract, turmeric root extract, tart cherry, green coffee bean, and other adaptogens and botanicals said to boost the female sex drive and arousal. They also just taste yummy—like passion fruit.

To peg or be pegged—that is the question, and one you can answer by taking your sex life to the next level with this strap-on kit (which comes with a small dildo and O-rings so you can swap in other sizes). “I love this set not just because it’s comfortable and easy to use, but it’s not overwhelming when you put it on,” says Amanda Chatel, Glamour writer and sex toy reviewer. “As someone who prefers vibes with my dildos, I’ve also found that putting a vibrating cock ring at the base against the O-ring really adds an extra thrill for both partners.”

A matchbox customized with your and your partner’s initials and the date you met is such a romantic gift. Pair it with a massage candle (see above) to complete the package.

Inside the pages of this book, you’ll read instructions on how to replicate sex positions with names like Corporate Merger, TV Dinner, and Snow Blower. Learning new moves with your partner is a creative way to build intimacy, even (and especially) if there are laughs along the way.

This powder is meant to be blended into your drink (be it coffee, water, or a smoothie). It’s made of herbs and adaptogens that enhance the sexual appetite (like something called horny goat weed) and has a smoky, chocolatey aftertaste. While we can’t verify that it works, your friend who’s into wellness trends and supplements might appreciate this as a stocking stuffer.

In a match of strip poker, you and your partner score by having the best hand and drawing various reward cards from such topics as Strip, Cuddle, Climax, and Talk. There are more than 200 different reward cards, with all sorts of creative NSFW activities, and you can even choose between advanced and quick(ie) versions of play. Taking off articles of clothing is only the start to how kinky this game gets.

In our humble opinion, mesh anything is sexy. These sheer boxers secure your giftee’s goods while putting on a show for those privileged enough to get a glimpse.